Create time and energy. This process of changing your eating will take time...time to plan your meals, shop, record what you eat, read your truth cards. So you will need to schedule in time to do these important tasks.
First determine how long you need to do your reading, recording, etc... Next schedule a time in your day to do these important tasks. It can be first thing in the morning or right before bed. Whatever works for you. I suggest recording what you will eat on any day on the day before.
Scheduling time to worship, read the word and pray is important. This is not for the purpose of "earning your righteousnes" but its because you WANT to do these things. You love God and know how easy it is to let your flesh rule your schedule.
Wednesday, April 29, 2009
Tuesday, April 28, 2009
DAY 7
The task for day 7 is to arrange your environment. Prepare your home and work environment by putting tempting foods where you won't easily see them~and by putting wholesome foods allowed by your diet in plain view. You may even need to not allow tempting foods into your home for a time. Think about your goals. It is worth it. Nothing is more important than giving this your all. Don't hesitate to throw food away that you do not want to eat or be tempted by. Better in the trash than hurting your body.
Monday, April 27, 2009
Coach Tyler
This is my diet coach. He encourages me daily in my true purpose for living and dieting. If I gain weight he encourages me to think of it as a process. He thinks I'm beautiful at any weight, or at least tells me it often. I have also recruited my daughter to help. Actually she takes it on herself to push me in the right direction in a lot of ways.
Yesterday I popped a bag of light microwave popcorn and was about to eat it in bed in front of the tv. Jesse yells from the other room "You get up to the table!" She was right. It is crucial that I follow the rules that are there to make me successful on my new quest for eating healthfully. It is not the least bit fun to eat popcorn at the table but if I eat in bed in front of the tv it will not register that I am eating food for the purpose of nourishment.
These habits are not optional. Choosing a diet coach is not optional. Do it. 5-4-3-2-1 now
The Bible's Purpose
“The Bible’s purpose is not so much to show you how to live a good life. The Bible’s purpose is to show you how God’s grace breaks into your life against your will and saves you from the sin and brokenness otherwise you would never be able to overcome… religion is ‘if you obey, then you will be accepted’. But the Gospel is, ‘if you are absolutely accepted, and sure you’re accepted, only then will you ever begin to obey’. Those are two utterly different things. Every page of the Bible shows the difference.”
- Timothy Keller
Sunday, April 26, 2009
DAY 6
The task for today is to choose a diet coach to:
Keep you motivated
Build your self-confidence
Help you solve problems
Keep you accountable
Help you grow in the grace of the gospel
Consider choosing:
A close friend or family member
Someone who wants to do this program with you
You want a diet coach who helps you identify and counter your unhelpful thinking, gives practical advice is highly encouraging and motivating and is willing to help you implement this program.
To Do
Schedule a regular time to meet with your coach to discuss wt
and how you are doing with all the steps.
And...
don't forget to daily read your truth cards
be grateful for the good choices you are making
sit and eat slowly
Keep you motivated
Build your self-confidence
Help you solve problems
Keep you accountable
Help you grow in the grace of the gospel
Consider choosing:
A close friend or family member
Someone who wants to do this program with you
You want a diet coach who helps you identify and counter your unhelpful thinking, gives practical advice is highly encouraging and motivating and is willing to help you implement this program.
To Do
Schedule a regular time to meet with your coach to discuss wt
and how you are doing with all the steps.
And...
don't forget to daily read your truth cards
be grateful for the good choices you are making
sit and eat slowly
Saturday, April 25, 2009
DAY 5
Today's task is to eat slowly and mindfully. There are two reasons this is helpful.
*When you eat slowly, your mind has time to register that you're full.
*When you notice and enjoy every mouthful you feel more satisfied when the food is gone.
Some helpful tactics:
Put your utensils down several times during the meal and wait 10-20 seconds before picking them back up.
Take sips of water between every few bites.
Think about how the food tastes, pay attention as you eat.
Today's to-do list
Read my Truth Card "why I am doing the W-D diet" twice
Read your other truth cards as needed
Did I eat slowly? sitting?
Was I grateful for the success I've had today?
*When you eat slowly, your mind has time to register that you're full.
*When you notice and enjoy every mouthful you feel more satisfied when the food is gone.
Some helpful tactics:
Put your utensils down several times during the meal and wait 10-20 seconds before picking them back up.
Take sips of water between every few bites.
Think about how the food tastes, pay attention as you eat.
Today's to-do list
Read my Truth Card "why I am doing the W-D diet" twice
Read your other truth cards as needed
Did I eat slowly? sitting?
Was I grateful for the success I've had today?
SOURCE
One of my reasons for doing the Welcome-to-your-Death Diet is to live my life more for Christ. I know that I use food as a source of comfort, and help in my day. Staying on an eating plan, especially one that has you eating mindfully for the purpose of nourishment is exposing in me how much I use food to cover emotions like fear or anxiety.
Living for Christ means HE is my source for everything. He is all I need for shalom or wholeness in my life- He is my source of self-control, strength, beauty, grace, perseverance.
Ephesians 1:3-7
Living for Christ means HE is my source for everything. He is all I need for shalom or wholeness in my life- He is my source of self-control, strength, beauty, grace, perseverance.
Ephesians 1:3-7
Spiritual Blessings in Christ
3Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in the heavenly realms with every spiritual blessing in Christ. 4For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight. In love 5hea]">[a] predestined us to be adopted as his sons through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will— 6to the praise of his glorious grace, which he has freely given us in the One he loves. 7In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God's graceThursday, April 23, 2009
DAY 4
Gratefulness
Today we combat negativity with gratefulness and make a plan to do it several times a day. People who struggle with their weight tend to be hard on themselves. When they slip on their diet they become very self-critical. Instead of viewing slips as mistakes and thinking how they can solve the problem the next time it arises, they tell themselves that they're weak, hopeless, or bad.
The good news is Jesus paid the price for our badness. We were enemies but His death on the cross has forgiven us and made us friends. Every good thing I do now, I can thank God for. And every bad thing I do I can receive forgiveness for. I have to stop thinking God is always disappointed in me! He is happy with me because of Jesus!!!
So rather than being negative all day be kind to yourself.
Every time I eat sitting down, or read my truth
card, or resist some food when it is not on my plan, I will say "whew, good job, thank you, Lord" or "Yay for me!" or "Thank you, Lord for being my strength".
If I slip up, I will thank God for His forgiveness.
You can put this on a truth card or put up a sticky note to remind yourself or decide to make a list of the good things you have done on your diet each day at mealtime, but set up a way to remind yourself to to be grateful for every little step you make.
Read your other truth cards today!
Wednesday, April 22, 2009
DAY 3
Eat Sitting Down
It sounds easy but this is a tough one for me. I believe it is key.
If you eat standing up or while doing anything else, you have less chance of really being aware of what you are eating and of being satisfied by it. So starting today commit to sitting at your table for your meals AND snacks.
If you find this hard maybe you are expecting more out of food than it was meant to give. I know I do. Food is my comforter. I love to eat in front of the TV or in bed with a book. It soothes me and rewards me. Also I will grab food as I go along the day as if it is my helper.
Comforter, soother, helper. This is the role God wants to play and I am turning to food instead. Since I want to turn to God I am going to obey this step. It is working. Food is serving its purpose of nourishing me. The rest of the day I find myself stuck with my fears, and emotions because I am not running to food. I am taking them to God more.
Write out a truth card for this step.
example: Sitting down is not optional. It's essential for controlling what and how much I eat.
or:" Just this one time" is not O.K. I have to face the fact that I probably can't lose weight or keep it off if I refuse to change this.
Read your Reasons for doing this Truth Card twice today. Or more if you need it.
It sounds easy but this is a tough one for me. I believe it is key.
If you eat standing up or while doing anything else, you have less chance of really being aware of what you are eating and of being satisfied by it. So starting today commit to sitting at your table for your meals AND snacks.
If you find this hard maybe you are expecting more out of food than it was meant to give. I know I do. Food is my comforter. I love to eat in front of the TV or in bed with a book. It soothes me and rewards me. Also I will grab food as I go along the day as if it is my helper.
Comforter, soother, helper. This is the role God wants to play and I am turning to food instead. Since I want to turn to God I am going to obey this step. It is working. Food is serving its purpose of nourishing me. The rest of the day I find myself stuck with my fears, and emotions because I am not running to food. I am taking them to God more.
Write out a truth card for this step.
example: Sitting down is not optional. It's essential for controlling what and how much I eat.
or:" Just this one time" is not O.K. I have to face the fact that I probably can't lose weight or keep it off if I refuse to change this.
Read your Reasons for doing this Truth Card twice today. Or more if you need it.
Diet is a Bad Word
Its so funny how every one is so down on diets. Even the commercial diets!
Weight watchers has big ads all over the place that say. QUIT DIETING.
Every diet I read about claims “this is not a diet, it’s a way of life”
18 years ago I was on the “nutrition” team at our church in Nebraska.
Our church had a school, counseling clinic, and medical clinic in the same building.
We ministered on “teams” according to these areas. My husband, a physician, was on the medical team and so was I, conveniently I had a nutrition degree and was interested in that area. A dietician from our church worked at the clinic and lead the team. She introduced us to a new idea for weight management. It was the idea that our bodies would tell us how much food we need by our hunger if we would learn to listen to it.
Then when Weigh Down came along it had somewhat the same idea (but with the salvation losing heresy)
This has been part of my struggle to stay on a diet. In the middle of it when the going gets rough I think, “this does not feel right, I should be able to do this without all these food rules” then I eat a cake.
I think my problem is that I think it should be easy.
I am in search of the key that will just make it easy! Dr. Beck says otherwise. So does Jesus. I am called to take up my cross and follow Him. A tad ouchy. Both say it will get easier…Jesus: take my yoke upon you and learn from me..my yoke is easy and my burden is light.
Dr.Beck: “If you follow the 42 steps in the six week Beck Diet Solution Plan you will find that dieting is easier than it has ever been in the past.”
Weight watchers has big ads all over the place that say. QUIT DIETING.
Every diet I read about claims “this is not a diet, it’s a way of life”
18 years ago I was on the “nutrition” team at our church in Nebraska.
Our church had a school, counseling clinic, and medical clinic in the same building.
We ministered on “teams” according to these areas. My husband, a physician, was on the medical team and so was I, conveniently I had a nutrition degree and was interested in that area. A dietician from our church worked at the clinic and lead the team. She introduced us to a new idea for weight management. It was the idea that our bodies would tell us how much food we need by our hunger if we would learn to listen to it.
Then when Weigh Down came along it had somewhat the same idea (but with the salvation losing heresy)
This has been part of my struggle to stay on a diet. In the middle of it when the going gets rough I think, “this does not feel right, I should be able to do this without all these food rules” then I eat a cake.
I think my problem is that I think it should be easy.
I am in search of the key that will just make it easy! Dr. Beck says otherwise. So does Jesus. I am called to take up my cross and follow Him. A tad ouchy. Both say it will get easier…Jesus: take my yoke upon you and learn from me..my yoke is easy and my burden is light.
Dr.Beck: “If you follow the 42 steps in the six week Beck Diet Solution Plan you will find that dieting is easier than it has ever been in the past.”
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
Diets I have tried
low cal
overeaters anonymous
mostly carrots
consequence diet (if i ate in between meals i had to vacuum)
bulemic diet (like it sounds)
stormy omartian
overeaters victorious
thin within
thin again
fasting
fit for life (30 lbs!)
weigh down
atkins (20 lbs!)
weight watchers (20 lbs!)
oxygen magazine diet (10 lbs)
overeaters anonymous
mostly carrots
consequence diet (if i ate in between meals i had to vacuum)
bulemic diet (like it sounds)
stormy omartian
overeaters victorious
thin within
thin again
fasting
fit for life (30 lbs!)
weigh down
atkins (20 lbs!)
weight watchers (20 lbs!)
oxygen magazine diet (10 lbs)
DAY 2
Ok, you choose your diet today. Choose any healthy diet cuz this time its gonna be different. I chose weightwatchers because they are currently siphoning money out of my bank on a monthly basis. And ww is very healthy and i can go to meetings for extra support. My back-up (choose 2 diets) is nutrisystem. I am a huge sucker for 40-something washed up stars losing gobs of weight and looking adorable. IE
Marie Osmand, Valerie Bertenelli.
One problem I have is really believing that a diet is the right way to go. I think it should come naturally without any rules! But then I think about my schedule. I fully believe I have to plan a schedule or i won't do what needs to be done. So what's the difference? I am thinking of the diet part as the plumbline i have chosen for God to work on me through and around. I am not serving the diet I am serving Him.
I wrote another Truth card for when I doubt I should be on a diet that reminds me of this. You might do the same if you have sabotaging thoughts about a "plan".
Also Read your truth card! Twice! Like you mean it!
Marie Osmand, Valerie Bertenelli.
One problem I have is really believing that a diet is the right way to go. I think it should come naturally without any rules! But then I think about my schedule. I fully believe I have to plan a schedule or i won't do what needs to be done. So what's the difference? I am thinking of the diet part as the plumbline i have chosen for God to work on me through and around. I am not serving the diet I am serving Him.
I wrote another Truth card for when I doubt I should be on a diet that reminds me of this. You might do the same if you have sabotaging thoughts about a "plan".
Also Read your truth card! Twice! Like you mean it!
Monday, April 20, 2009
some of my reasons
Reasons I do welcome to your death diet
1. I don’t want to live for myself but for
Him who died and rose on my behalf
2. I will not be controlled by anything
3. I want to live for God’s glory not my own
4. I will live longer
5. I will be healthier, no diabetes, or
heart disease .
6. I will be able to serve my family, and
minister to others more effectively and
for longer
7. I will travel more easily, less pain and
discomfort.
8. My feet will feel better.
9. I want to bless others with beauty
10. I do not want to be depressed, discouraged
or distracted by my weight
12. It’ll be easier to dress every day
14. Less depression so I will be able to get out
and grocery shop, counsel or go to church
15. I will not spend times every day feeling guilty for overeating or
for being a bad person
16. I will not waste time and energy vacillating from plan to plan;
philosophy to philosophy.
19. Outward fruit of God’s help
20. Helps me focus on God many times a day
1. I don’t want to live for myself but for
Him who died and rose on my behalf
2. I will not be controlled by anything
3. I want to live for God’s glory not my own
4. I will live longer
5. I will be healthier, no diabetes, or
heart disease .
6. I will be able to serve my family, and
minister to others more effectively and
for longer
7. I will travel more easily, less pain and
discomfort.
8. My feet will feel better.
9. I want to bless others with beauty
10. I do not want to be depressed, discouraged
or distracted by my weight
12. It’ll be easier to dress every day
14. Less depression so I will be able to get out
and grocery shop, counsel or go to church
15. I will not spend times every day feeling guilty for overeating or
for being a bad person
16. I will not waste time and energy vacillating from plan to plan;
philosophy to philosophy.
19. Outward fruit of God’s help
20. Helps me focus on God many times a day
DAY 1
This first 2 weeks is laying the groundwork. Learning crucial strategies that you’ll need to be successful and maintain the weight loss. (You don’t even have to start the actual diet part for 2 weeks) Today you will make your first Truth Card. Truth cards are index cards with messages that will counter sabotaging thoughts. This first card, to me, is the crux of the diet. Why am I doing this? (my past motives were not powerful enough to carry me) So write down on an index card (or on a few) your reasons for doing this program. I left off all idolatrous reasons like: I must look good to feel good about myself! I will include my sample list. The reasons should line up with God’s purposes for your life. You will be taking a minute twice a day to read through this list. I set my phone to remind me at 8 and at 3pm. Dr Beck kicks you in the butt a little bit to MAKE you do this…I have decided I am going to do every single thing she says. She has convinced me it’ll work if I take it seriously.
Saturday, April 18, 2009
Coming soon...DAY 1
I promise next post to record what the assignments are on this diet!
It will officially be Day 1. (Um I officially already started and lost 3 lbs but for the purposes of this blog I will record the hows and whats at DAY 1 !!!)
It will officially be Day 1. (Um I officially already started and lost 3 lbs but for the purposes of this blog I will record the hows and whats at DAY 1 !!!)
A paper I wrote about my bi-polar mom
(Editor: delete stuff about my siblings...I don't want them to be mad at me) Mary Kay Martin
CP&P Feb 2008
RP#8
http://www.ccef.org/basics-about-bipolar-0 (check this out)
I read “An Unquiet Mind” in one day. I enjoyed the book because I have personal experience with Manic-Depression.
I was around 8 years old in the late 60’s the day I recall hearing the term Manic- Depression. I didn’t like it because it sounded like maniac and the Psychiatrist was talking about my mom. Dr. Brookes had called us all into his office, all 8 of us, to explain the episodes my mom had been having for the last 30 years. He thought the 6 of us kids should know why my mom had been carted off to the hospital several times, sometimes by the police, why she talked fast sometimes, stayed up all night writing novels on whatever paper she could find, and often sat at the dinner table fast asleep with a lit cigarette. He drew a line on a graph to show us my mom’s ups and downs that made up her condition.
By this time my mom was on lithium and thorazine and life for my family had improved a lot over what they had gone through. I admire my dad so much for all he persevered through. Well, he actually jumped ship after my mom jumped in a lake with their first born baby. She was hospitalized and my dad just left, in shock I guess. Two years later my dad having a bout of conscience came back and had to explain to my mom’s dad and uncle “his intentions”. I guess he convinced them he was committed because they accepted him back in my mom’s life and my dad proceeded to stick around for the rest of her life, through many ups and downs and in the process made 5 more babies, me being the 5th. My brother was cared for, for those two years by my aunt. He is now a psychiatrist himself, and bi-polar. The rest of us seem slightly crazy but in my opinion we get less crazy as we go down the line. I feel pretty sane as the 2nd to youngest. My mom was somewhat stable during most of my life. I hear she got bad after my birth and my little brother’s birth. My grandma had to take care of the newborns as she kept finding my mom asleep with a baby and cigarette in hand. My sister claims I was all but abandoned when my brother was born one and a half years after me. She says she took care of me which explains our mother-daughter-like dysfunction.
I remember my mom coming home a couple times from the hospital and my older sibs warning the younger ones to be quiet so as not to make mom “nervous”. At that time it was called a “nervous condition”. She always came home from these stays with crafts which confused me. I later figured out that making clowns out of scraps of cloth was “therapeutic” for the patients. My mom also received shock treatment which was thought to be “therapeutic”.
I was spared the memories of seeing my mom taken by the police which my 3 older sisters and eldest brother remember. In fact she did so well during my youth that when I was 15 I was quite perplexed when she went through a manic phase. It was bad and I was the oldest kid home now so I pretty much took charge. My dad coped by way of denial. (I wondered why in the world he let my mom work in our catholic school cafeteria while she looked like she could fall asleep any minute. Now I realize it was the denial/passiveness. I was embarrassed when my 4th grade crush, Matt Werthmann asked me why my mom looked so sleepy.) Anyway, during her episode my sophomore year, I did all the laundry, cooked the meals and hopped out of bed in the middle of the night to try to coax my mom back to bed, or at least to put the cigarette out so we wouldn’t burn in our beds. All the thanks I got from her was that she called me a brat. Of course I knew she would never have talked to me that way if she were not hyper. Hyper is the word my mom preferred we used when referring to her manic episodes because she also thought it sounded like maniac and she tended to be in denial about things just like my dad. Like when she insisted the name of her clothing store was Fashions Unlimited, when it was actually Fashions-at –Large. She denied her weight problem.
After that big episode my sophomore year my mom continued with small ups and downs until her death at age 62. I was 24. I always felt that her mental condition was what led to such an early death. In order to keep calm and avoid hyperness my mom smoked and overate and limited her activity to reading the paper and watching Wheel of Fortune. She died of congestive heart failure.
Even though I see myself as one of the emotionally more healthy offsprings I can totally relate to bi-polar mood swings. I can relate to the feeling described in the book that “I can do anything” and the opposite feeling that “I don’t want to do anything”. These cycles are usually short and not drastic in intensity. I’d say 2 weeks of the month I am inert and 2 weeks I am super mom. Over the past few years these moods have dramatically evened out. I believe this is due to my increasing reliance on the gospel for justification. I notice that if I am down and feeling worthless, a reminder that I am perfect in Christ prevents me from going even further into the pit. When I am energized I don’t over do it because my worth is no longer dependant on how much I accomplish. It rests on Jesus’ work. I’ve learned to take my moods in stride and to remember than they do not last forever. Jesus loves me no matter how motivated I am and in fact my moods are quite separate from who God sees me to be.
I often wonder how these truths would have helped my mom to weather her serious mood swings. She became a Christian before her death and I look forward to seeing her in heaven, as she was meant to be, without the drugs, violent mood swings and the cigarettes.
CP&P Feb 2008
RP#8
http://www.ccef.org/basics-about-bipolar-0 (check this out)
I read “An Unquiet Mind” in one day. I enjoyed the book because I have personal experience with Manic-Depression.
I was around 8 years old in the late 60’s the day I recall hearing the term Manic- Depression. I didn’t like it because it sounded like maniac and the Psychiatrist was talking about my mom. Dr. Brookes had called us all into his office, all 8 of us, to explain the episodes my mom had been having for the last 30 years. He thought the 6 of us kids should know why my mom had been carted off to the hospital several times, sometimes by the police, why she talked fast sometimes, stayed up all night writing novels on whatever paper she could find, and often sat at the dinner table fast asleep with a lit cigarette. He drew a line on a graph to show us my mom’s ups and downs that made up her condition.
By this time my mom was on lithium and thorazine and life for my family had improved a lot over what they had gone through. I admire my dad so much for all he persevered through. Well, he actually jumped ship after my mom jumped in a lake with their first born baby. She was hospitalized and my dad just left, in shock I guess. Two years later my dad having a bout of conscience came back and had to explain to my mom’s dad and uncle “his intentions”. I guess he convinced them he was committed because they accepted him back in my mom’s life and my dad proceeded to stick around for the rest of her life, through many ups and downs and in the process made 5 more babies, me being the 5th. My brother was cared for, for those two years by my aunt. He is now a psychiatrist himself, and bi-polar. The rest of us seem slightly crazy but in my opinion we get less crazy as we go down the line. I feel pretty sane as the 2nd to youngest. My mom was somewhat stable during most of my life. I hear she got bad after my birth and my little brother’s birth. My grandma had to take care of the newborns as she kept finding my mom asleep with a baby and cigarette in hand. My sister claims I was all but abandoned when my brother was born one and a half years after me. She says she took care of me which explains our mother-daughter-like dysfunction.
I remember my mom coming home a couple times from the hospital and my older sibs warning the younger ones to be quiet so as not to make mom “nervous”. At that time it was called a “nervous condition”. She always came home from these stays with crafts which confused me. I later figured out that making clowns out of scraps of cloth was “therapeutic” for the patients. My mom also received shock treatment which was thought to be “therapeutic”.
I was spared the memories of seeing my mom taken by the police which my 3 older sisters and eldest brother remember. In fact she did so well during my youth that when I was 15 I was quite perplexed when she went through a manic phase. It was bad and I was the oldest kid home now so I pretty much took charge. My dad coped by way of denial. (I wondered why in the world he let my mom work in our catholic school cafeteria while she looked like she could fall asleep any minute. Now I realize it was the denial/passiveness. I was embarrassed when my 4th grade crush, Matt Werthmann asked me why my mom looked so sleepy.) Anyway, during her episode my sophomore year, I did all the laundry, cooked the meals and hopped out of bed in the middle of the night to try to coax my mom back to bed, or at least to put the cigarette out so we wouldn’t burn in our beds. All the thanks I got from her was that she called me a brat. Of course I knew she would never have talked to me that way if she were not hyper. Hyper is the word my mom preferred we used when referring to her manic episodes because she also thought it sounded like maniac and she tended to be in denial about things just like my dad. Like when she insisted the name of her clothing store was Fashions Unlimited, when it was actually Fashions-at –Large. She denied her weight problem.
After that big episode my sophomore year my mom continued with small ups and downs until her death at age 62. I was 24. I always felt that her mental condition was what led to such an early death. In order to keep calm and avoid hyperness my mom smoked and overate and limited her activity to reading the paper and watching Wheel of Fortune. She died of congestive heart failure.
Even though I see myself as one of the emotionally more healthy offsprings I can totally relate to bi-polar mood swings. I can relate to the feeling described in the book that “I can do anything” and the opposite feeling that “I don’t want to do anything”. These cycles are usually short and not drastic in intensity. I’d say 2 weeks of the month I am inert and 2 weeks I am super mom. Over the past few years these moods have dramatically evened out. I believe this is due to my increasing reliance on the gospel for justification. I notice that if I am down and feeling worthless, a reminder that I am perfect in Christ prevents me from going even further into the pit. When I am energized I don’t over do it because my worth is no longer dependant on how much I accomplish. It rests on Jesus’ work. I’ve learned to take my moods in stride and to remember than they do not last forever. Jesus loves me no matter how motivated I am and in fact my moods are quite separate from who God sees me to be.
I often wonder how these truths would have helped my mom to weather her serious mood swings. She became a Christian before her death and I look forward to seeing her in heaven, as she was meant to be, without the drugs, violent mood swings and the cigarettes.
Stinkin' Thinkin': Some thoughts from Bobbi McCamish
Hey MK,
Just read your blog. Nicely done! One quick note, however. CT is not the enemy of biblical counseling - it's just a poor copycat. The Bible had the idea of replacing what I fondly refer to as "stinkin' thinkin'" with right thinking long before CT ever suggested it. Just read 2 Cor. 10:5, 1 Cor. 2:6-16, and Phil 4:8. We are always thinking something - the question is, "What is it we are thinking?" CT is on the right path by suggesting we need to replace our "wrong" thoughts with other thoughts. The problem is, the thoughts they would have you replace the "wrong" thoughts with are not necessarily any more pleasing and honoring to God than the first thoughts were. They may be different ones, but that doesn't mean they are better ones. See you Saturday sweetie!
Blessings,
Bobbi
Just read your blog. Nicely done! One quick note, however. CT is not the enemy of biblical counseling - it's just a poor copycat. The Bible had the idea of replacing what I fondly refer to as "stinkin' thinkin'" with right thinking long before CT ever suggested it. Just read 2 Cor. 10:5, 1 Cor. 2:6-16, and Phil 4:8. We are always thinking something - the question is, "What is it we are thinking?" CT is on the right path by suggesting we need to replace our "wrong" thoughts with other thoughts. The problem is, the thoughts they would have you replace the "wrong" thoughts with are not necessarily any more pleasing and honoring to God than the first thoughts were. They may be different ones, but that doesn't mean they are better ones. See you Saturday sweetie!
Blessings,
Bobbi
Thursday, April 16, 2009
Why the name?
Paul David Tripp, A QUEST FOR MORE
The Bottom line: in calling us to die, Christ is actually rescuing us from death and giving us life.
Here is one of the most practical truths you will ever consider. It has everything to do with how you are presently investing your life, where you are placing your hope, and the transcendent life that you were created to enjoy. The little kingdom promises life, but brings you death; the big kingdom requires your death, but gives you life.
The Welcome to your Death , Diet explained
left to right:PEGGY ,JARED,JESSE
I'm calling it
The Welcome to your Death, Diet. My friend Peggy says I should put a comma before diet.
Peggy has been beside me through the ups and downs of my wt obsession. One day about 4 months ago I went to her house almost in tears. “I am sick of struggling with this. I know being fit and beautiful is an idol but what can I do.?” Peggy, the holy spirit speaking through her, as usual said. ”Repent”. It is scary to repent of dieting because you will get fat, right!? Peggy didn’t. I actually first met Peggy in a weight loss
group called Weigh Down and I was the
co-leader. It was heresy. Bad theology. I think I will issue a public apology on this blog down the road.
My motives for losing wt in the past could not sustain wt loss! They were selfish motives.I just could never keep my motive to glorify God and enjoy him forever.
So anyway I am trying something. Combining a Kingdom focus with some good old cognitive therapy.
(Hey that sounds like Integrative Therapy but not quite)
No one can begrudge a Christian, the right to put a verse on a card and meditate on it in hopes it will change behavior, can they?
But the difference is in where my HOPE lies. Is it in the cognative therapy to change me or even in the verse?
Change comes through a person. Jesus Christ.
Can I combine Him with Ms beck? Did he send Ms. Beck?
Stay tuned for the journey of discovery…in the mean time I have lost a pound. I will post my wt to excite readers. I LOVE watching people’s wt go down don’t you?
Im not really bi-polar I just act like it
The diet books I ordered came!!!! It is very impressive! I have already done the first 3 days of assignments. On each day you write things on index cards to imbed in your brain.
Ms Beck says it’ll work and I must believe her. Infact there is a card on which you write to yourself to believe ms beck and to do everything ms beck tells you to do. Not exactly.
Anyway I am still motivated and still on that ‘upswing’ which jesse and i call the up side of our bi-polar mood swings. We aren’t really bi-polar but jesse loves to think she is. She is my daughter (24) and “they” say manic depression skips a generation. My mom was a card carrying manic depressive back when they put you in jail and did shock therapy on people. (Yes, on my mom, I will post her story soon)
http://www.ccef.org/basics-about-bipolar-0
But now ms beck says I need to go.
Ms Beck says it’ll work and I must believe her. Infact there is a card on which you write to yourself to believe ms beck and to do everything ms beck tells you to do. Not exactly.
Anyway I am still motivated and still on that ‘upswing’ which jesse and i call the up side of our bi-polar mood swings. We aren’t really bi-polar but jesse loves to think she is. She is my daughter (24) and “they” say manic depression skips a generation. My mom was a card carrying manic depressive back when they put you in jail and did shock therapy on people. (Yes, on my mom, I will post her story soon)
http://www.ccef.org/basics-about-bipolar-0
But now ms beck says I need to go.
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
jesse mccartney ..alot like jesus
I worked out today using God's Kingdom as motivation.
Hmmm i knew I had to cut out the motivating booty-worshipping songs.(such as entering booty-town,i really have that)
But can Christian music motivate me to go for 30 minutes on the eliptical machine?
I started with a lecture by David Powlison. I'm taking his class on Theology and Secular Psychology.
That kept me going for a while but then i looked to see if i have some Christian music with a beat that would keep me going. No Christian music. My 17 yr old, Jenae downloaded a lot of pop songs for me to exersize to.
I looked for something without themes that would have me thinking I'm in a music video looking like madonna.
Suprisingly if you are in a worship mindset even Beyonce's Crazy in Love can be directed to jesus.
Jesse Mccartney sounded like jesus wanting me and my beautiful soul.
I had a good workout.
Hmmm i knew I had to cut out the motivating booty-worshipping songs.(such as entering booty-town,i really have that)
But can Christian music motivate me to go for 30 minutes on the eliptical machine?
I started with a lecture by David Powlison. I'm taking his class on Theology and Secular Psychology.
That kept me going for a while but then i looked to see if i have some Christian music with a beat that would keep me going. No Christian music. My 17 yr old, Jenae downloaded a lot of pop songs for me to exersize to.
I looked for something without themes that would have me thinking I'm in a music video looking like madonna.
Suprisingly if you are in a worship mindset even Beyonce's Crazy in Love can be directed to jesus.
Jesse Mccartney sounded like jesus wanting me and my beautiful soul.
I had a good workout.
stewardship, schmewardship
So the day before I saw my friend and her thinness, I met with Bobbi McCamish, a counselor on the board of CCEF. If you don’t know what that is, get ready. I talk about it a lot. www.ccef.org
She is thin by nature and not an overeater. ???? We discussed keeping fit for the purpose of being a good “steward” of our body. A good STEWARD?!!!! Its just so hard to get motivated to go to the gym and suffer daily on the off chance that it will let me live longer, and do more. Bobbi also strongly encouraged me to read A QUEST FOR MORE.
OK, I am seeing how living for something bigger than myself CAN motivate me to do anything especially since this something else…is ALL there is. He is the ONE thing else.
Tripp talks about 4 words to describe how to live in a Christ –centered way.
Christ is my:
Source
Motive
Goal
Hope
She is thin by nature and not an overeater. ???? We discussed keeping fit for the purpose of being a good “steward” of our body. A good STEWARD?!!!! Its just so hard to get motivated to go to the gym and suffer daily on the off chance that it will let me live longer, and do more. Bobbi also strongly encouraged me to read A QUEST FOR MORE.
OK, I am seeing how living for something bigger than myself CAN motivate me to do anything especially since this something else…is ALL there is. He is the ONE thing else.
Tripp talks about 4 words to describe how to live in a Christ –centered way.
Christ is my:
Source
Motive
Goal
Hope
Tuesday, April 14, 2009
I started this diet yesterday and in my manic state have already decided to write a book. I know that people write blogs and they turn into books, right? (Note to editor:take this part out..it must look more organic)
Ok, so diet history. My 30th year of dieting I have landed on what just might be THE diet! THE answer to all my searching. I got a BA in Nutrition and have been doing "research" ever since. And not just in the nutrition part but I want to discover what God thinks of these weight struggles. What is the answer!
I have been obsessed with my weight on and off for these 30 years. I lost weight in high school (all girl catholic school) and actually had a nun ask me how I did it. (Sister Carlyn, very thin, with whiskers, but obviously obsessed with her weight as well.)
BOORING. I will skip the history. Suffice it to say, (suffice it to say? is that a saying, editor?)
I have had ups and downs and lately have struggled mostly with motivation.
MOTIVATION:
The key to behavior. Why do we do anything? I was finding that to be disciplined I had to focus on myself and be motivated by MY glory. This sucked. I am not made to focus on my glory, my body, or my wonderful healthful life-style.
I would every so often get sick of myself and repent of the self focus. But then overeating always seemed to follow, which leads to wt gain.
Last week a friend looked to be losing weight. Of course any religious dieter pounces on that. "How are you doing it?" I asked. She explained that she is using a method of cognitive therapy.
CT- this does not jibe with Biblical counseling does it? But how can I ignore the thinness that this friend had and just may be within my grasp so I got online and plunked down a bunch of money to get the stuff. Then I read up on it...no, no, no. This can not be the answer!?
I simultaneously am reading a great heart searching book called A QUEST FOR MORE, by Paul David Tripp. In the first half of the book my problem was summed up. I am living for MY kingdom..Not the Creator's.
quote: To live for yourself is to rob yourself of your own humanity. I was made to live for Jesus.
quote:You will never win the battle with yourself by saying"no" to yourself (like I was doing).
The battle only begins to be won when you say "yes" to the call of your King, the Lord Jesus Christ.
So my experiment is to use the CT materials but replace the self pep talks with the truth of why I do anything...for the King. So here I go...welcome to your death...(The name of the next Tripp chapter) to call me to death to self...death to my agenda.
Ok, so diet history. My 30th year of dieting I have landed on what just might be THE diet! THE answer to all my searching. I got a BA in Nutrition and have been doing "research" ever since. And not just in the nutrition part but I want to discover what God thinks of these weight struggles. What is the answer!
I have been obsessed with my weight on and off for these 30 years. I lost weight in high school (all girl catholic school) and actually had a nun ask me how I did it. (Sister Carlyn, very thin, with whiskers, but obviously obsessed with her weight as well.)
BOORING. I will skip the history. Suffice it to say, (suffice it to say? is that a saying, editor?)
I have had ups and downs and lately have struggled mostly with motivation.
MOTIVATION:
The key to behavior. Why do we do anything? I was finding that to be disciplined I had to focus on myself and be motivated by MY glory. This sucked. I am not made to focus on my glory, my body, or my wonderful healthful life-style.
I would every so often get sick of myself and repent of the self focus. But then overeating always seemed to follow, which leads to wt gain.
Last week a friend looked to be losing weight. Of course any religious dieter pounces on that. "How are you doing it?" I asked. She explained that she is using a method of cognitive therapy.
CT- this does not jibe with Biblical counseling does it? But how can I ignore the thinness that this friend had and just may be within my grasp so I got online and plunked down a bunch of money to get the stuff. Then I read up on it...no, no, no. This can not be the answer!?
I simultaneously am reading a great heart searching book called A QUEST FOR MORE, by Paul David Tripp. In the first half of the book my problem was summed up. I am living for MY kingdom..Not the Creator's.
quote: To live for yourself is to rob yourself of your own humanity. I was made to live for Jesus.
quote:You will never win the battle with yourself by saying"no" to yourself (like I was doing).
The battle only begins to be won when you say "yes" to the call of your King, the Lord Jesus Christ.
So my experiment is to use the CT materials but replace the self pep talks with the truth of why I do anything...for the King. So here I go...welcome to your death...(The name of the next Tripp chapter) to call me to death to self...death to my agenda.
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